American Culture & Culture Shock

Living in a foreign country is challenging, but also a great learning experience. By learning to understand and navigate the culture of another country, we become more open-minded and accepting individuals. While you are here in the United States, consider cross-cultural learning an important aspect of your education.

If you come from a cultural background that differs greatly from that of the United States, the behavior of Americans may be very strange, annoying, or even upsetting to you at first. Following is a guide to American cultural traits and values which will help you to understand the meanings and intentions of the things Americans say and do.

Self-Sufficiency
Americans have a very high regard for those who are self-sufficient. It is an important aspect of American culture. However, you will also find that Americans are very willing to help someone in need– they will just expect you to ask for help before they do so. It will rarely be assumed that you need help if you don’t ask for it.

Attention to Time
Americans tend to dislike the idea of wasting time. For many Americans, each part of the day has a purpose and free time is often lacking. They can also seem quite obsessed with being on time (although many Americans are often late). Being late for an appointment with an American can be taken as a personal offence because it indicates disrespect.

Independence
Independence is a very strong cultural value in the U.S. Young people look forward to moving out of their parent’s home so they can be independent from them, and parents generally want them to do so. Parents feel that teaching their child independence is an important part of their upbringing and is considered a positive thing.

Equality
America’s history of racism and segregation has largely been replaced with the idea of “equal opportunity”. Most Americans feel that each person should have the same opportunities regardless of race, gender, or religion. The notion of equality extends to Americans’ general disregard for social or economic status. Being wealthy or having connections to powerful people does not automatically command respect from Americans, and it will generally not entitle a person to special treatment or privileges.

Informality
Newcomers to the United States are often shocked by the informality of Americans. People dress very casually, call superiors by their first names, and eat just about anywhere. This is related to Americans’ idea of equality. If we are all social equals, then we can be informal in just about any situation.

Directness and Openness
Americans often say exactly what they think, even if the information is unpleasant or bad news. In some cultures this is considered rude. However, Americans feel that acting any other way would be dishonest or even disrespectful. Americans often find it confusing when visitors from other cultures do not say exactly what they want, think, or need.

Privacy and Personal Space
Americans covet their own personal space, and generally do not like that space to be invaded. They find it uncomfortable when others stand too close, and will unconsciously move away. In addition, Americans have a strong sense of privacy, and feel everyone is entitled to that. They do not like to be asked their age, weight, or salary. Conversations about personal family matters, political opinions, or religion are reserved for later stages of friendship.

 

American Social Customs

Everywhere you go in the world, social customs are different. What is polite in one country can be considered rude in another. Here is a guide to American social customs. You will probably find a lot of differences and similarities with your own culture.

Meeting People
Shake hands firmly, and shake hands with people of the opposite gender. To Americans, how you shake hands is a measure of your character.
Always look people in the eye when shaking hands or conversing. Lack of eye contact is interpreted as lack of honesty in the U.S.

Out in Public
Hold the door open for people walking behind you.
Wait in like patiently.
Treat people in service positions (servers, drivers, etc) as equals.
Give tips in restaurants, hotels, hair salons, taxi cabs, and to anyone who helps you carry your luggage.

Dining
Don’t eat fast– savor the food to show you enjoy it and take time to make conversation.
Put your napkin in your lap.
When you need assistance in a restaurant, raise your hand and say, “Excuse me, please!” Other methods used in other countries may not be understood or liked in the U.S.
Learn which food are “finger-foods” and which require silverware.
When eating out with friends, each person usually pays for themselves unless someone clearly states they will pay. Always assume you will pay for yourself. This is called “going Dutch”.

Driving
Follow the traffic rules and mind the red lights.
Allow pedestrians to have the right of way.
Give a little wave if someone lets you merge.
If you are driving slower than most people, use the right lane.

Friendship with Americans
American spend their lives moving frequently to new cities, new jobs, and new activities. For this reason, Americans tend to be very friendly– they will start conversations with fellow passengers on the bus, invite a new acquaintance to lunch or a birthday party, or smile and say hello to strangers they pass in the street. Americans find it easy to make casual friends. This habit has helped them adapt to the many changes that occur during their lifetimes.

However this also means that Americans don’t have a lot of life-long friends. Children don’t keep the same classmates throughout their school years. Neighbors and family members move away. There are fewer opportunities to form deep friendships. Americans treasure the close friends they do make. But it can be difficult for a new acquaintances to move into this level of friendship.

This aspect of American culture can be confusing and frustrating for visitors from cultures that value a very tight friendship network. Actions that Americans may consider to be causal friendliness can be interpreted as a sign of deeper friendship by others.

 

Dealing with Culture Shock
The Adjustment Process in a New Culture

Understanding the cultural adjustment process can help you in coping with the often intense feelings that you may experience as you begin your life in the U.S. Each stage in the process is characterized by “symptoms” or outward signs typifying certain kinds of behavior.

“Honeymoon” period: Initially, many people are fascinated and excited by everything new. The visitor is elated to be in a new culture.
“Culture Shock”: The individual is immersed in new problems: housing, transportation, shopping, and language. Mental fatigue results from continuous straining to comprehend the new language.
Initial Adjustment: Everyday activities such as housing and shopping are no longer major problems. Although the visitor may not yet be fluent in the language spoken, basic ideas and feelings in the second language can be expressed.
Mental Isolation: Individuals have been away from their family and friends for a long period of time and may feel lonely. Many still feel they cannot express themselves as well as they can in their native language. Frustration and sometimes a loss of self-confidence result.
Acceptance and Integration: A routine (e.g., work, business, or school) has been established. The visitor has accepted the habits, customs, foods, and characteristics of the people in the new culture. The visitor feels comfortable with friends, associates, and the language of the country.

[Note: This cycle may repeat itself throughout your stay in a new culture. AND these feelings are normal. Note also that upon returning home you may experience some of these same feelings as you did when you first arrived in the new culture. This is called “reverse culture shock”.]

The following are some tips to help you deal with culture shock:

Go out: Don’t sit in your apartment or the library every day. Find some campus activities that sound interesting to you. By getting out and into social settings, you will begin to become more comfortable with new customs.
Get exercise: Exercise has been shown to reduce stress and fight depression. Take a walk downtown or join an intramural sports team. Find some fellow students who want to get active, and schedule a regular activity.
Make friends: Make an effort to become friends with both Americans and with other international students. The international students will be able to relate to your feelings and may be able to offer advice and support. American friends can answer general questions you have about life in the U.S. By making new friends, you will reduce feelings of loneliness and will begin to form bonds with your new surroundings.
Learn about the new culture: Resist the urge to judge behaviors or practices that are different from your own as being “bad” or “unintelligent”. Instead, try to learn the reason behind the behavior. While you may not agree with the practice, you will have a better understanding of how to respond when faced with it.
Seek assistance: If you find that you cannot seem to adjust to the new culture, make an appointment to speak with one of the staff in the Office of International Programs. If you find that you are very depressed, make an appointment with the Counseling Center. In both cases, your meeting will be completely confidential.
Be patient: Most people require several weeks or more to feel comfortable in a new culture. Give yourself time to adjust. Focus on the positive experiences, and try to view negative experiences as learning opportunities

 

United States Holidays

As a nation, the United States celebrates a number of official holidays. The following holidays are “Federal Holidays” on which many places of business-- such as banks and stores— are closed, including university offices.

July 4        Independence Day
September 4    Labor Day
October 9    Columbus Day
November 11    Veterans’ Day
November 25    Thanksgiving Day
December 25    Christmas Day
January 1    New Year’s Day
January 15    Martin Luther King Jr. Day
February 19    Presidents’ Day
May 28        Memorial Day

Daylight Savings Time
Most places in the United States observe “Daylight Savings Time”. In the spring, all clocks are moved forward one hour, and in the fall they are moved back again. The historical purpose of this practice was to give more daylight time to agriculture workers in the summer. Nowadays, Americans find that they just enjoy more daylight hours for summer recreational activities!

March 14, 2010: Move your clocks back one hour.
November 7, 2010: Move your clocks forward one hour.

Each year Daylight Savings Time starts on the second Sunday in March and ends on the first Sunday in November.

As a nation, the United States celebrates a number of official holidays. The following holidays are “Federal Holidays” on which many places of business-- such as banks and stores— are closed, including university offices.

 

July 4                        Independence Day

September 4           Labor Day

October 9                Columbus Day

November 11         Veterans’ Day

November 25         Thanksgiving Day

December 25          Christmas Day

January 1                New Year’s Day

January 15 Martin Luther King Jr. Day

February 19 Presidents’ Day

May 28 Memorial Day

 

Daylight Savings Time

Most places in the United States observe “Daylight Savings Time”. In the spring, all clocks are moved forward one hour, and in the fall they are moved back again. The historical purpose of this practice was to give more daylight time to agriculture workers in the summer. Nowadays, Americans find that they just enjoy more daylight hours for summer recreational activities!

 

March 14, 2010: Move your clocks back one hour.

November 7, 2010: Move your clocks forward one hour.

 

Each year Daylight Savings Time starts on the second Sunday in March and ends on the first Sunday in November.